The Shape of Love
There is an age-old question asking ‘What is Love?’ since the dawn of civilization and times of great empires and kingdoms. It is even believed to be that love started way before the humankind emerged in this world, that is when God created Adam and Eve. So, does this old question of many eras have an answer? Has anyone given a single particular definition or answer to this, which is universally accepted by all? Well no. Many have tried to answer this question through various means of explanation, descriptions, stories, and definitions, but is it possible to explain love? Is there a way to give love a face and define its shape through a singular meaning and a string of words? All these questions are aroused around this particular concept which has bewildered many through the ages but never has been answered with full understanding and satisfaction without any denial, of every existing being in this world. Is it due to the various factors and philosophical characteristics of love itself that these many doubts, confusion, and uncertainties have raised?
Love and its Forms
Born as a human being every individual is entitled to love. But love is not given and gained in the same form to everyone. It changes between individuals as do the individuals change in their character, appearance, personality, and various other distinct characteristics. This is the main reason why love could never be defined and explained universally. It tends to change and defer among every living being. It does not have to be only between two people; love is not quantitative and limited. It does not have to be between two different genders, it could also be between the same genders; there is no taboo in love. Love does not confine within the borders of a single species, it could be a bond between a human and a pet animal. It cannot be fenced by race, color, or appearance. Love doesn’t have any requirements or standards to be met. It is something that could never be forced to be done. It is an act of self-indulgence and interest. If compared to the characteristics of the first law of thermodynamics, love could be viewed as a form of energy. As the law states that “energy cannot be created nor be destroyed”, well if you understand it love is also similar to this, you could not forcefully create love or destroy the love someone has for another. Hence love doesn’t have a single form or definitive shape. It transforms, reshapes, evolves, and melds itself among beings.
Understanding Of Love
Love and the expressions of it could vary on how it is conveyed. ‘I love you’ and ‘I am in love with you’, are both different ways of expressing the type of love that is intended in the context or relationship with the person that the conversation is being held with; both of the phrases express different feelings and are not the same. Saying that you love someone could be a form of general expression and could be said to any type of individual irrelevant of relationship and aiding factors, conveying the affection and care you have towards the person without expecting the same in return. But when you say that you are ‘in love’ with someone it expresses the feeling that the feeling is shared between two individuals who are in love and mutual and will not be of any meaning if you do not receive the same from the person concerned. It is personal and shared with a single person who could be a partner, spouse, or lover irrespective of the factors of the outlook of that person. Love that is expressed through action gets varied and given shape and form when a higher form of expression and output is required for the love. That is when gifts are given, grand gestures are made, intimacy is created, promises and bonds are made, matrimony is held, bodies are united and when new life is created, that is the act of love. That is why physical intercourse between two individuals with love is called ‘Making Love’, which is one of the most intimate acts of expressing love physically.
Existence of Love
Love is a chronic phase in the lives of human beings which is fragmented into parts and spread throughout the lifespan of an individual irrelevant to the age, time, and necessity of it. It could never be fully understood, felt, and believed without experience. It is a phenomenon that can only be understood when experienced personally by oneself. It is not a simple action that could easily be explained using a verb such as running or talking and be understood by the related person that is listening. It has to happen on its own in an individual’s life and hence be felt and understood by that experience. Love does not confine itself in the circle of success or failure; it’s not an act that has a specific result to it. It is just the presence of it, the expression, the act, the feeling, and altogether the experience that is had, is love.
Love is a unique phenomenon. An individual has to experience love to feel its existence and give it a shape that can only be understood and perceived by that individual. That is the shape of love, the way it appears to us irrespective of all common sense, logic, and characteristics of the world and surroundings. It could never be universally standardized or generalized in appearance and feel.