Do you know what love is?
Well before I begin, I would like to say something. Whatever I write in this article is totally my personal opinion about the topic and has nothing to do with anyone’s personal beliefs regarding the topic. Please try to have an open mind to new or different opinions. And if by any chance (unintentionally) anyone feels offended then I’m sorry in advance. Do you know what love is?
Now shall we start?
So, what is love? Woah, now that’s too much, to begin with, right? I mean like that’s a really big topic to talk about, right?
Now let’s start with baby steps. So let me just rephrase the question. What is that first thing that comes to your mind when I say the word LOVE?
Think about it. Now all those people who thought of something vulgar (if you know what I mean) or illegal stuff (also if you know what I mean) then I think you might wanna reconsider your priorities and your life choices.
Now that’s not the point. The point is, someone told me that the first thing that comes to your mind when you talk about love is the one thing that you love the most. Now I don’t know if the person who said this knew or not that there are some weird people like me who could love food more than anyone. Like when I did this with myself, the only possible thing I could think of was food. I think I need to get my priorities checked.
Well moving on. So, like I said all I could think of was food. But I really want to know what love is. So I asked a few of my friends what love is. And I got pretty interesting answers to this question.
So one of my friends describes love as a fairytale. One day you meet your prince charming who will sweep you right off your feet. Someone who will be your Knight in shining armor. Someone who will be your “THE ONE”. Now I’ve watched enough fairytales to know that there is a reason why they all are called fairy tales. I mean like you cannot just fall in love and marry a guy you just met. Queen ELSA said this for herself and I support her. I mean like she isn’t wrong, is she? How can you decide that he or she is the one for you? You guys have talked for like 3 minutes, that’s all(I legit counted it). I cannot even decide what to wear for the day even if I have an eternity for it. Then how can someone possibly decide this one so easily? But then that’s what my friend believes love is like.
Now another friend of mine said that love is like the ones we read in MILLS AND BOONS. How a poor girl accidentally bumps into a rich handsome guy. Then they both fall in love and have their happily ever after. Wow. Amazing right?
Now let me tell you the reality, my friend.
Girl, I’ve been broke all my life but never, I repeat never have I ever accidentally, intentionally or unintentionally bumped into a rich handsome guy ever. Like EVER. Let alone fall in love with one. Never has that ever happened to me throughout my 20 years of existence. (Meanwhile, my mom is in the background asking me if I’m crying or not. To that I’m like “No mom I ain’t crying. It’s just my eyes are sweating that’s all. Yeah, that’s just sweat dripping from my eyes. I ain’t crying”)
Honestly, these kinda books should be banned, man. I mean like they make me have all sorts of unexpected expectations about love. Expectations that seem far better than reality. I’m pretty sure every person who has ever read those books had pretty similar expectations as mine. I don’t blame them though. It’s the books that are to be blamed.
But honestly, guys, what was the greatest love story that you have ever heard of or read?
Now, most people will probably say Romeo and Juliet. It indeed is the greatest love story. But what does this love story tell us? Well, I don’t know about the others, what I understood was that even if we can’t live together, we surely can die together. I mean like I get the part of “No one can separate us” or “Until death do us apart”. Like ok, I get it that you’re in love and can do anything for each other but is it really worth it. I mean like I’m not saying that dying for the one you love isn’t worth it. But I wouldn’t call it the ideal love story.
My kind of ideal love story would be where you both met when you were kids. Fall in love as you were growing up. Start dating each other during teens. Get married during your mid-twenties. Have kids and start a family of your own during your late twenties. And then have a happily ever after until your late nineties. Chessy right? Some might even say that it’s a pretty old school. But then these kinds of stories are pretty rare in this generation.
You’ll find many people saying that they find it hard to fall in love. I think it’s not about falling in love, it’s about staying in love. People of our generation find it difficult to stay in love with the same person for a long period of time. They get into relationships. And then they say they have lost interest in that person or that they feel like the sparks are gone.
Well honestly if you feel that way then you weren’t in for love in the first place. You were just looking for temporary happiness that’s all. I believe that when you’re in love, you never get tired of that person. Yes, you may have your ups and downs but doesn’t every relationship have it?
But after all this, the question still remains unanswered. What is love? Now I honestly don’t know how to describe love. Well, Google says that it is an intense feeling of deep affection you have for someone or something. Is it the feeling you get when you see someone beautiful? Is it the feeling that others describe that they get butterflies in their belly when they see someone they love? Or is it when they say that your heartbeat gets faster when you’re around the one you love? Or is it the way they write it in books?
Are these honestly what love is? Or is it just the product of someone’s imagination that has been passed onto others for generations? Weird right?
Have you ever thought, how did you ever get to know about the idea of love? Was it the movies? Plays? Books? Or people?
Whatever we know about love is through books, movies, or people.
The idea of love has always been told to us by others. They have described it and we have followed it. Do we know how to describe it without using these existing examples?
Think about it carefully and you will realize that none of us knows exactly what love is. When asked about love we’re basically describing someone else’s idea of love.
Now I ain’t a love expert or anything who knows everything about love. So to conclude, I’d say I don’t really know what love is. But I would love to know what love is.