The Untold Part Of Love | Why Relationships Fail | Jealous Or Insecurity?

Love, one word that describes many emotions. Love can be for anybody or anything. Love is an emotion not many can express. Love can be for family, pets, place, that special person, etc. Love is one such emotion that can teach you the most important lessons in one’s life. Love is that feeling that becomes the very foundation of a relationship without which a relationship just becomes mechanical. The three most essential elements for a successful relationship are LOVE, TRUST & UNDERSTANDING.

Love is that beautiful feeling that would make you smile like an idiot for no reason when you are together and the same memories of the person would make you burst into tears when you are apart. Love creates many unforgettable memories when this love succeeds these memories are blissful to remember, but when it fails the same memories become sorrowful. Love can make you feel happiest when you are together and saddest when separated.

The Untold Part Of Love | Why Relationships Fail | Jealous Or Insecurity?

I believe the word love would bring back memories in every person’s life, good or bad but I feel everybody has come across love. Relationships are an essential part of everyone’s life, everybody needs somebody or the other. Relationships are always not a success, many people fail in love. There are several reasons why a relationship does not last. One such reason for a relationship to fail is jealousy or insecurity. As little it may sound, it plays a huge role in relationships, which ignored becomes the major reason for a relationship to end.

JEALOUSY OR INSECURITY?

Jealousy and insecurity have a very thin line which differentiates them both. Jealousy is usually due to external factors, whereas insecurity arises due to internal factors. A simple example is when a girl is spending time with her friend more than her boyfriend, the boy is jealous because he can not spend more time with her. This is jealousy, whereas in the same scenario if the boy feels that his girl might be cheating him, This can be called as insecurities. They usually arise due to a lack of trust, lack of communication, etc. Insecurities are harmful to Love. For love to last jealousy is fine, in fact where there is love, there is jealousy, but it’s not the same with insecurities.

The Untold Part Of Love | Why Relationships Fail | Jealous Or Insecurity?

WHY RELATIONSHIPS FAIL?

One thing has to be made clear, that is it’s not loving that fails it’s the people in the relationship who fail to make love stronger than their differences. People even when getting separated still have feelings for each other, it is just that their differences have won over their love.
The majority of the relationships fail because of a lack of communication. If partners could only communicate better would their differences look smaller in front of their love? It is only when u don’t communicate properly that problems like Insecurities, Trust issues, etc arise.
Love, as beautiful as it sounds, has its dark side too. Love to last requires sacrifices, which in the modern day is very difficult to find. For a relationship to last, people must be willing to make sacrifices for each other if required.

The Untold Part Of Love | Why Relationships Fail | Jealous Or Insecurity?

 

KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP:

Love is complicated, making a relationship work may be hard sometimes but if there is love then nothing is impossible. For a relationship to last you must always trust your partner, support them in their endeavors, comfort them in their sorrows, care for them, give them little surprises, etc. The list may seem long but when its love, it’s never enough.

The Untold Part Of Love | Why Relationships Fail | Jealous Or Insecurity?

EXPECTATIONS IN LOVE: BOON OR BANE?

Expectations are the mother of the destruction of relationships. Expectations when not met often lead to disappointments, which sometimes become a reason for a relationship to fail. The expectation is a Bane to me, expectations usually set up a standard in the mind which when not met often leads to grave disappointments.
Love is one such feeling which must be free from expectations otherwise can prove harmful to a relationship. Love is a blessing that everyone gets but only a few get to be in.

The Untold Part Of Love | Why Relationships Fail | Jealous Or Insecurity?

AM I REALLY IN LOVE?

You know it’s love when spending time with them is all you want.
You know it’s love when you don’t want your first ride to come to an end.
You know it’s love when you realize it’s this person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You know it’s love, when you smile whenever you think about them.
You know it’s love when the thought of losing them wets your eyes.
You know it’s love when all you want to hear is them calling you mine.

WHAT LOVE FEELS LIKE?

I don’t know whether to call this feeling a blessing or a curse.
Happiness like we’ve never felt before or,
Pain that we never expected for.
Dreams which make us smile or reality that breaks us apart.
Love is what brings us together, Differences is what tears us apart.

How Can Love Makes You a Better Person?

Love is the best feeling one can experience. A person starts loving the moment he is born. The purest form of love we experience is when we are born. The love we get from our parents is unmatchable. As we grow, we get love from our siblings, who love us so much that they can do anything to make us happy. Then you find love in a person whom you make your better half, the person you get married to. You decide to spend your whole life with that person. And then, you have a love for your children, whom you expect to love the same way your parents did to you. The more you love, the more love makes you a better person. A person tends to love himself, which is an important thing in life. We are surrounded by love from birth until death. We just need to understand every form of love.

LOVE

Love helps you differentiate between right and wrong When you are in love, you get to understand life in a better way. You get to know what is wrong and what is right. Love is more than words; you understand things that are not spoken of. Before you commit a mistake, you get to know what you are doing is not right; and hence you avoid doing it. Even if you commit a mistake, you agree to it when you are made to understand what mistake you have done. The word EGO is terminated from your life the moment you understand the importance of love. Let’s take a situation to understand this better. Suppose, you are leaving for work on a Monday morning. Generally, you drive yourself to the office on a Motorcycle. As you are getting late for the office, you forget your helmet. The smiling faces of your loved one’s flashes in front of your eyes just as you start your bike. What you do next? You get off from the vehicle and walk into your house to get the helmet. Just as you enter the house, you see your mother holding the helmet in her hand, rushing towards you.

pros and cons of love

This is a situation where you understand what you were doing is wrong; hence you did not do it. You understand how love makes you a better person and how you differentiate between right and wrong. Love is selfless The purest form of love is always selfless. You tend to love the person more than yourself. You think of them before yourself. That is the purest form of love. Your parents are the best example of what is mentioned. Even if you are having bad days, you have lost your job, your car is broken, you don’t have a place to live; you will always have your parents by your side. The way your parents love you is unconditional. Even if you have only one bread to eat during bad days, they will sleep hungry but won’t let you sleep hungry. If you become selfish in love, the existence of love vanishes. Not only parents but your siblings, your other half, your children, your pet, all love you selflessly and so do you. Seeing this love, you won’t do any such things which would hurt them in any way. If you are selfish in love, it is not loved. You don’t want to change the person; you accept the person as he is. The person himself changes for the better. That is called selfless love. If you experience this kind of love, you are the luckiest person in the universe. Love is without expectations Love is never give and take policy; it is giving and not expecting anything in return.

LIVE LOVE SOLUTION

Expectations kill love. Expectations by its nature always tend to increase. You can never satisfy your expectations. Similarly, if you have expectations in love, you will always be disappointed. To love is to not expect anything in return. Just accepting that you love the person and don’t want anything in return makes it a lot easier to be happy. Love is not an investment in which you look for returns. It is the most beautiful feeling in the world which doesn’t require any returns. Love is freedom. You cannot and should not cage the person you love. You should just love them and set them free. I learned this from my mother. When I was only eight years old, I had a parrot as a pet which I kept in a cage. My mother asked me why did I keep it in the cage. I was a kid told my mother that I keep it in the cage because it is mine and I love it. My mother told, “if you have to keep it in a cage, how is it yours?” Listening to my mother, I opened the cage and let it fly. I waited for a few minutes and when it did not return, I started to sob. Two hours later, it flew in and sat on my shoulder. My mother told, “Now it is yours.” This was a very good lesson my mother taught me at a very young age. This is not just enough on what we can say about love. This is a feeling that will always make you better as a person. It enhances your qualities and you become a better person.