Love is the best feeling one can experience. A person starts loving the moment he is born. The purest form of love we experience is when we are born. The love we get from our parents is unmatchable. As we grow, we get love from our siblings, who love us so much that they can do anything to make us happy. Then you find love in a person whom you make your better half, the person you get married to. You decide to spend your whole life with that person. And then, you have a love for your children, whom you expect to love the same way your parents did to you. The more you love, the more love makes you a better person. A person tends to love himself, which is an important thing in life. We are surrounded by love from birth until death. We just need to understand every form of love.
Love helps you differentiate between right and wrong When you are in love, you get to understand life in a better way. You get to know what is wrong and what is right. Love is more than words; you understand things that are not spoken of. Before you commit a mistake, you get to know what you are doing is not right; and hence you avoid doing it. Even if you commit a mistake, you agree to it when you are made to understand what mistake you have done. The word EGO is terminated from your life the moment you understand the importance of love. Let’s take a situation to understand this better. Suppose, you are leaving for work on a Monday morning. Generally, you drive yourself to the office on a Motorcycle. As you are getting late for the office, you forget your helmet. The smiling faces of your loved one’s flashes in front of your eyes just as you start your bike. What you do next? You get off from the vehicle and walk into your house to get the helmet. Just as you enter the house, you see your mother holding the helmet in her hand, rushing towards you.
This is a situation where you understand what you were doing is wrong; hence you did not do it. You understand how love makes you a better person and how you differentiate between right and wrong. Love is selfless The purest form of love is always selfless. You tend to love the person more than yourself. You think of them before yourself. That is the purest form of love. Your parents are the best example of what is mentioned. Even if you are having bad days, you have lost your job, your car is broken, you don’t have a place to live; you will always have your parents by your side. The way your parents love you is unconditional. Even if you have only one bread to eat during bad days, they will sleep hungry but won’t let you sleep hungry. If you become selfish in love, the existence of love vanishes. Not only parents but your siblings, your other half, your children, your pet, all love you selflessly and so do you. Seeing this love, you won’t do any such things which would hurt them in any way. If you are selfish in love, it is not loved. You don’t want to change the person; you accept the person as he is. The person himself changes for the better. That is called selfless love. If you experience this kind of love, you are the luckiest person in the universe. Love is without expectations Love is never give and take policy; it is giving and not expecting anything in return.
Expectations kill love. Expectations by its nature always tend to increase. You can never satisfy your expectations. Similarly, if you have expectations in love, you will always be disappointed. To love is to not expect anything in return. Just accepting that you love the person and don’t want anything in return makes it a lot easier to be happy. Love is not an investment in which you look for returns. It is the most beautiful feeling in the world which doesn’t require any returns. Love is freedom. You cannot and should not cage the person you love. You should just love them and set them free. I learned this from my mother. When I was only eight years old, I had a parrot as a pet which I kept in a cage. My mother asked me why did I keep it in the cage. I was a kid told my mother that I keep it in the cage because it is mine and I love it. My mother told, “if you have to keep it in a cage, how is it yours?” Listening to my mother, I opened the cage and let it fly. I waited for a few minutes and when it did not return, I started to sob. Two hours later, it flew in and sat on my shoulder. My mother told, “Now it is yours.” This was a very good lesson my mother taught me at a very young age. This is not just enough on what we can say about love. This is a feeling that will always make you better as a person. It enhances your qualities and you become a better person.