Did you Found your true Love?
Post-independence India believed in marriage and procreation was the only goal of a human life. There was a saying “First you Marry, then you procreate and provide your child with a better life and if life permits, go for love”. While the present-day Indian Youth have the exact opposite viewpoints. Every single person is expected to have a partner and a relationship before the official marriage. Even marriages are going out of trend and are being replaced by the so-called live-in relationships. So the question arises: Did you found your true love
IS LOVE A NEED OR JUST AND DESIRE?
Science with its recent developments has proved that love is a need for humans and Oxytocin the infamous “Love Hormone” is a basic necessity to control anger and depression. But the perception of love in today’s generation is completely different and is against the very argument that love prevents depression. Did you Found your true Love?
Suicide rates have surged in the world and India being highest among them. While there can be many reasons, Love-Failure is considered to be the biggest culprit among them. A report by CNN states that “Love is the number one reason behind suicides” But WHY IS IT SO?
This can be divided into two categories
- Social Reasons
- Biological Reasons
Every single one of us has always faced the wrath of society and our friends. I can recall some instances from my life as well and here it goes,
I have always been an introvert or that “shy guy” every group has. Though I don’t act like an introvert with my friends and I feel different while I talk to strangers. Making new friends has been so difficult for me let alone new girlfriends. Being from a conservative Indian family, my mom always says that “get a job with a handsome salary so that it’ll be easy to get a bride someday”. Both these factors made me stop caring about getting a girlfriend and that indeed made me good at studies.
It was all going well until all my friends had a partner. I kind of developed a fear of visiting my Whatsapp status page. Every status you see had given me some kind of a jealous feeling towards my friends and somehow even reduced my self-confidence. The growing pressure from my friends to get a girlfriend was so painful and exhausting for me.
Like any teenager would do, the internet was the easiest option to know the operational details about making a girlfriend (pun intended). And I would spend hours researching the details. Saw thousands of cringeworthy articles and videos on youtube and other platforms. so trust me guys “101 hacks to find a girlfriend” doesn’t work, sigh.
With all these, I was somehow getting connected off from my family, especially my mother and my dear friends. A sudden realization came and I started to self-introspect. I asked myself “Do I need a girlfriend? , or I just desire because my friends say so ?’’ which made me ask myself that “ are girls just some kind of a toy who are free to use when needed and throw them away in case the need vanishes? ’’. This made me think the number of heartbreaks millions of people had to go through every day just because of the reason that they trusted the other guy with their Love and Time. I had a dual feeling that how evil the world is and at the same time how innocent the world is too.
This brings us to the point, how love is being accused of being the biggest killer in the world while love has actually no part in this. Bad people hiding behind the mask of love the culprit here.
Oxytocin, what is it and how am I related to it? might be the question you should be asking right. To know about it, see the contrast in my story and the story of my friend here…
We do have friends in our groups who are smart, good looking, and have an interesting character and attitude. They are the ones who are famous across the college community.
The guy I am talking about also has the same fan following in the college. To be honest, he was famous during his school days too, so getting a girlfriend was never an issue for him. Every other day he has someone new. Ya I know it’s like too much. Hey, Please don’t think me as the only person who was jealous of him.
Every here and there whenever I met him, the only question I had was “What is the secret of your success?”, yes he was the success I had ever dreamt of during my school life. He would reply with just a smile which in case you wonder, increases my jealousy level a thousand times. The next question from me would be like “ why the heck are you with another person every time I see you ??”. The smile goes off and he would just timidly answer “ ya, it didn’t work for us”. The surprise face I made after listening to it was worth a view. Did you Found your true Love? do you think so?
But why was this? The real reason is oxytocin.it is a chemical released when we feel love. Since there was no true love, no emotional connection, he just got bored of the brief increase of oxytocin and felt the urge to get someone new who would start the same cycle again and again.
This devastates the life of the girl who might have felt true love with him. Now we can recollect why people are accusing love as a reason here. Their allegation is not false but the criminal is not loved rather the person who hides behind this mask.
Love is beautiful, divine, and indescribable. It’s an emotion no author can, even the great Shakespeare couldn’t describe.
Love is infinite, the more you devote the deeper your find yourself in. Nothing in the world is more beautiful and divine than Pristine Love.
The only problem with today’s youth is that they are running behind the pleasure of love instead of the divine feeling that love serves us. The reason can that, love is still seen as a taboo in Asian countries especially southeast Asia. People are conservative in ideology but the fun fact is that the highest population belongs to this part of the world. Hypocrisy much!
Finally, Love is something that happens and you should possess the knowledge to differentiate between true love and infatuation. The hearts of the Indian youth left only with the feelings of hatred, jealousy, and Rage. The youth needs to set its priorities right and should only love to feel not to show! So ask you a question, Did you Found your true Love?